Breaking up with an Abusive Partner is a nightmare on the rise for Black Men. Angry and bitter women who don't want to stop usually go after the kids as a tool to harm both the kids and the man after an domestic violence situation. Black men need more services that are free and confidential to help them cope with violent women in their lives.
What will Tony Payton Jr., State Rep., Pennsylvania, Darryl T. Nutter Sr., Front Page News Journalist, Philadelphia, Teee Coston, TBM Organization Founder, New York, and Shelly C. Dugan, Esq., Domestic Abuse Project Inc., President, Delaware County do for women and men suffrage? They will do plenty if you are a victim of domestic violence, or you are in an urgent domestic violence situation. As of lately State Rep. Payton has been considering more ways that domestic violence victims can get immediate assistance. And he has observed closely that there has been a rise of men who are survivors of domestic violence. Therefore, Rep. Payton is looking forward to supporting groups that have member programs working tirelessly all over the state of PA to help women and men survivors towards safety and freedom.
Rep. Payton has welcomed nonprofit organizations providing training, services, and resources for their own domestic violence programs in Pennsylvania State. Rep. Payton has also provided information for government, media, and the public. Recently, one such public worker advocating along with Rep Payton for more laws that ensure safety and justice for men survivors is Darryl, T. Nutter Sr. Nutter is pushing for everyone to understand that this can and does happen to anyone. It doesn't matter when it comes to witnessing abusive relationships. Nutter is hoping that your race, color, income level, female gender or male gender, or other variables do not stop those in authority from believing the victim. Because most are used to finding that men are the abusers of the domestic violence problem when men flee from abusive relationships looking for help usually they are ignored. Domestic violence is now almost every man’s nightmare too.
Many who are not interested in the rise of men fleeing physical violence at the hands of their female partners have never had a mother, aunt, sister, daughter or niece who has experienced domestic violence. Seeing another human being beat should make you care when you hear instances of one mate injuring another. And Nutter wants to work out a court reform component that is about providing specialized support to domestic violence agencies. I for one want court reform that is for conducting research to promote local-level change and publishing papers on critical issues of males surviving domestic abuse.
The Thoughts of Black Men founder Tee Coston has sent me a note about how in recently in Seattle, the Washington state Supreme Court ruled that employers cannot fire domestic violence victims who take time off work to protect themselves and their families. Coston says that more men are contacting his support group about troubles with women when they try to leave an abusive relationship or miss time from work going to court to protect their children from violent partners. The court noted in its opinion that many of the actions victims must undertake in order to protect themselves -legal proceedings, getting medical attention and finding a new place to live – often must be done during normal working hours. And Nutter is working hard to get this understanding out to employers because many employers feel that men don’t need medical attention when they break up from an abusive woman. Unfortunately father’s children haven beaten so badly by their mothers, that the children end up in the hospital.
But when this happens, Shelly C. Dugan, Esq., President of Domestic Abuse Project of Delaware County Inc., (DAP) supports the employee who might have to take a few weeks leave in order to care for their children, go to court, obtain a protection order. And the dad and child may have to move into a battered man’s housing program.
Each year, DAP provides services to more than 5,000 residents of Delaware County. All services are free, including free representation in Protection from Abuse Hearings. DAP remains the sole provider of these services throughout the 49 townships and boroughs of Delaware County. Get help by calling the DAP Hotline: (610) 565-4590 24 hours a day.